Sarah’s 20th Birthday

 

Sarah celebrated her 20th birthday on December 1. Her birthday fell on Thanksgiving weekend this year which meant we had about 20 people in the house from Wednesday - Saturday with Sarah's birthday on Sunday. The turn-around was a bit rough, but we managed it as best we could. 

Sarah decided that she wanted to go for a local hike and then head to a pottery store down the road to paint pottery. After that she wanted to go to a Mexican restaurant in our old neighborhood for dinner followed by an ice cream cake. 

We have a policy in our house, now that the kids are older, that no one has to participate in anyone else's birthday activities if he/she doesn't want to. This way the birthday person does not have to deal with sulky siblings on his special day while doing the things that she enjoys, but his siblings may not. Because of this rule, Josh sat out the morning hike and Andy sat out the afternoon pottery session, but Elizabeth, Bobby, and I joined Sarah for her whole day. 

When painting pottery, Elizabeth chose to paint a mushroom, Sarah chose a small lizard and a shark (her favorite animal besides her puppies), I chose to paint a potted cacti plant, and Josh chose to paint a gift for his girlfriend, Liz. Bobby did not paint anything, but instead just came along for the birthday girl.

The Mexican food we ate was delicious and everyone seemed to enjoy her/his food. We had a special guest come along with us, our Norwegian son, Endre, who was staying with us for about a week after the semester ended before he flew home. 

And of course, the ice cream cake was delicious. Overall, I think Sarah had a good birthday. I definitely think she likes her birthdays better when they do not come right on the heel of a long weekend full of family, but she made the most of it, like she usually does. 

This dilapidated building can be seen from the trail. At one point the forest we are walking through must have been farmland. 

Sarah's independence is astounding. 

The fairy neighborhood we stumbled upon in the woods. 

Although it is so hard to tell, this tree was ginormous looking among all of its neighbors. 

A Walk In The Woods

There is a large parcel of undeveloped woodland next to our neighborhood. It is easily accessible from our home, and I find myself back there often with Max and Miles. I am not sure who owns this tract of land. There are no private property signs anywhere that I have seen. There are multiple survey roads (or at least what appear to be old survey roads) where the land has been cleared in a road-like fashion at one time but has since begun to become wild once again. There is creek that meanders along a good portion of the property, which is my favorite part of the whole thing. The dogs love it too, especially in the hot sun of the spring, summer, and early fall here. The only real signs of human life that I have come across are an old rock fire ring, and further on down the trail, a hunting blind. Other than that, it seems devoid of anything other than which lives in those woods. It is so peaceful back there; it seems a world away from everyday life and I appreciate its proximity to my home very much. 

That brown thing on the leaf is a giant ass spider. 

There is a pretty large tract of land beside our development that has a multitude of what I think are old survey roads. If one is willing to walk through some weeds in certain points, there is a whole world of awesomeness back there. 

My two traveling companions always willing to scope out first what is yet to come.

 

 

18

 

On August 17th Elizabeth turned 18. I am not officially the mother of four adult children. I didn't put any thought into Elizabeth turning 18 because I didn't think it would bother me, but as we went through the day the realization dawned on me that I no longer have any kids - all of my people are grown up. I have been a mother to children for the last 24 years, and now all of the sudden I find myself the mother to no children. The thought makes me a bit sad. 

Elizabeth hemmed and hawed over what to do for her birthday for months. Literally. But at the end of the day, she chose to have a pretty low-key birthday mainly because the majority of her siblings were unavailable to make any plans because of work and soccer. My mom and dad came down to celebrate Elizabeth's day with her, once again showing my children that they will always be there with them to support them as they hit their life's milestones. 

After waking up and opening gifts, Elizabeth chose to head to the lake to hang out on the water for a few hours. After doing that, we were able to meet up with Josh, Endre (our "adopted" son and teammate of Josh's from Norway), and Andy for dinner at one of Elizabeth's favorite restaurants called Pinkey's. We all had a nice time, and it was good to be together to celebrate Elizabeth. After departing from Josh and Endre, who had to get back to school, the rest of us went back to the house where we had ice cream cake for dessert and watched a movie.

And that was Elizabeth's 18th birthday. 

A Welcome Respite

 The windows are open for the first time in months. The temperatures yesterday and today are well below the average for this time of year, and I gladly welcome the respite from the oppressive heat and humidity summertime brings. Like laundry hung on a line, one of my greatest homemaking joys is opening the windows for the first time after a long season of intense heat or frigid temperatures. There is something so satisfying in feeling the air make its way through the house supplying it with a deep gulp freshness that swallows the staleness stagnating everywhere. 

To see my curtains billowing and to hear all of the everyday (and night) noises that exist outside the confines of my home is a welcome change that always lifts my spirits. 

How I love open windows in my home!

The heat is returning though. In a few days the temperatures are expected to be in the low 90's again. With that will come closed windows again and central air turned on, but for now I will relish in the feeling of fresh air filtering its way through the confines of this house. Thankfully, summer is almost over here. The days of multiple open window days (even weeks!) is almost upon me. For now, I will cherish these two days that gave me an unexpected glimpse of what is just around the bend. 

Back To School/Fall

 Thank the gods that summer is almost(ish) over. Y'all know how I feel about summer in the South. It is usually uncomfortably hot through September with a day or two of refreshing temperatures towards the end of the month. I feel like fall doesn't truly get here until October, BUT the fact that I can say that I made it to this point means that I have made through half of May, all of June and July, and the beginning of August. so I can safely say that I am almost through it.  

With August comes Elizabeth's birthday and a rush of that back-to-school chaos that I love. Soccer season begins too, for both Josh and Elizabeth. Elizabeth is playing on a club team this year. She finally decided that she wanted to get more serious about playing soccer during her final year of eligibility (go figure), so we'll be traveling a bit for her and a bit more for Josh who is also entering his final soccer playing season. 

Josh moves back to school in less than a week while Sarah moves back to school in a little under two weeks. I am excited for both of them to be moving forward and being one step closer to their goals of receiving degrees. Andy is finishing up his first class at the aviation school he is attending, and appears to be doing really well, so although he began classes in July, it is still so new that it seems like he is beginning his own 'back to school' experience as well. 

Pretty soon the house will be quiet(er) again. With Andy gone Monday - Thursday evenings and then working some of the time outside of those days, it will just be me, Bobby, and Elizabeth here most of the time. It will be a new normal to get used to, but one in which we can adjust to. 

The Last First Day

On August 1st of this year, Elizabeth and I began her senior year of high school. This also means that it is my last year of homeschooling. I have been a homeschooling mama for 14 years. That is a lot of my life, and I am having a harder time than I anticipated reconciling the fact that I am in the homestretch. 

I am so glad that I homeschooled our kiddos for the majority of their school years. There are definitely things that I wish that I would have done differently, and if given the chance to go back and have a 'do over' would definitely change things up, but I cannot, and so I will do what we all do and march forward with the beat of time. 

Elizabeth is not on the traditional path of what looks like "normal" schooling. She learns differently and struggles with things that others do not. I am finally at a place in my homeschooling journey where I am comfortable with our learning journey looking a bit different than others. As long as she is moving forward on her own path then I am okay with that. 

We debated on starting this school year after Labor Day, but I decided against it because we often have visitors in the fall, and we do not generally do schoolwork when we have visitors. I wanted to have a jump on our stuff so that when we do take a visitor break we are in a good spot to do so. I also want to be able to end our school year at a reasonable date to give Elizabeth the summer to relax before she either joins the workforce fulltime or goes to college. (She is thinking she would like to take a European gap year in between graduating and continuing on with her education.)

On our last first day Elizabeth cleared out her binders from last year, made new binder covers for her subjects for this year, reviewed what she will be working on this year, and lightly began some of her subjects.  We always start off our first couple of days just getting introduced to the upcoming year and getting set up for success. 

We will begin the meat and potatoes of our school year today.

Decorating her binder covers.

This year's schoolbooks. 

My last Erin Condren school planner. 

 

A Dream Come True

One of Sarah's dreams, post disease diagnosis, was to welcome a guide dog into her life.  There are many advantages to having a guide dog as a visually impaired person, the biggest being that it helps to have two brains working together toward a common goal, which in turn creates confidence in oneself.  Plus, the implicit trust between a guide dog and her handler allows a level of freedom for the visually impaired person that a cane alone does not. 

The thing that I did not know about guide dogs prior to Sarah losing her own vision, is just how hard it is to qualify for one. Guide dog organizations don't just hand out guide dogs to anyone who wants one. The application process is very thorough. Not only do you need proof from your physician that you are visually impaired - a person also has to have multiple references, get through an interview, and also show that one can navigate in the world on her own. This last part of the process involves a year + of training with an orientation and mobility specialist.

 Our family had to hire our own private O & M specialist while Sarah was under the age of 18 (long story) to teach her the skills necessary to qualify for a guide dog. We interviewed and hired a wonderful woman named Jana. Jana is an amazing human being and teacher who helped Sarah learn how to navigate in this world by herself. Sarah explained to Jana that it was a dream of hers to qualify for a guide dog. Jana explained to Sarah that this would be a long process, especially since Sarah had no previous orientation and mobility training. It took about 16 months, but by the end Sarah learned how to navigate stores, neighborhoods, the bus system, the train system, uber/taxis, navigating all kinds of roads, including multiple lane road crossings (think 3 and 4 lanes going in all four directions). Jana showed Sarah how to navigate a college campus, how to pick up on different sounds and signals to help her get around by herself. It was an amazing process to watch unfold from my perspective.  To see Sarah's determination to get through some really hard stuff and to meet with Jana weekly and put in the work just shows how tough Sarah is. Imagine closing your eyes and with only a cane getting around your neighborhood, crossing a street with 3 lanes and using your ears to be able to tell when the lane closest to you has a red light, getting on a bus and knowing when to get off of the bus at your stop, walking around a store to shop or knowing where to go for help with shopping. Could you do it? I know I certainly could not. Now imagine watching your child do it. It is so inspiring and scary. But this is what Sarah needs to do to accomplish her goals - she needs to know how to navigate in this sighted world as a person who is blind. 

And so...after 16 months of O & M training, several months long application process, over a year of waiting for her match after her application was accepted, Sarah finally got her guide dog. She flew to White Plains, New York two weeks ago and went through a 12 day bootcamp learning how to navigate life with a guide dog (which is different than doing so with a cane). 

On Monday, June 10, 2024, Sarah met Heron - her yellow lab match. To say that it was an emotional experience would be an understatement. This was the culmination of a lot of hard work and determination. It was a dream come true for Sarah - the first of many. 

I am so proud of Sarah for putting in the work the accomplish this goal. She did this all on her own. No one else could help her with this dream. And she did it.

Sarah and Heron came home on Saturday, June 22, 2024. Miles immediately took to Heron. He is head-over-heels in love with her and will not leave her side. Max isn't so sure of her. He doesn't like a new being intruding on his territory, so it will take a bit of time before he warms up to her.

What a ride this journey has been. 

Meet Heron

At her graduation ceremony at the end of the two-week bootcamp.

Playing tug-of-war. 

Miles happy as a hippo with his new best friend.